An EXAMPLE OF A SELF CONTRACT IN RELATION TO FOOD
1. I have the right to state my own food needs.
2. I have the right to decide how much I want to eat and when, regardless of any social or work situation I may find myself in.
3. I have the right to express how I feel.
4. I have the right to say "yes" or "no" myself (and also to myself).
5. I have the right to make mistakes, to lapse and to learn.
6. I have the right to ask for what I want.
7. I have the right to decline responsibility for satisfying other people's needs.
8. I have the right to deal with others without being dependent on them for approval.
9. I have the right to ask for more of something I enjoy...
This has been adapted from Anne Dickson, A Woman in Your Own Right: Assertiveness and You by another author Sara Gilbert specifically for eating issues and I have also slightly adapted it because it is really helpful.
Although it is gender specific - issues with weight aren't - it just seems that most of the "diet literature" has been aimed at women...
Anyway, whether you are female or male - learning to be assertive is a skill we all need...